Ten things I wish I could tell my 16yo self about the real world. Don’t fall for the bullshitters.

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Through out my life I have met quite a few people who have made promises to help me with everything from work to photography and to taking my pants off. Most of us will encounter at least a few of them in our life time. They are the people who talk about how much they can do for you and all the awesome opportunities they can arrange for you. They talk about how connected they are or about who they are going to introduce you to, they offer you “modelling” gigs or special business deals.

These people talk big and seem impressive, but there is one important thing that I have found. The people who could genuinely help me just did it. They didn’t talk about how amazing or how connected they were, they just went out and got it done. The talkers never came through.

Don’t get caught up with the bull shitters and more importantly if you want something then don’t wait for someone to drop it in your lap, go out and get it. Opportunity is 50% luck and 50% hard work. When the genuine helpers with genuine opportunities come along you won’t be able to take advantage of their help unless you have laid the groundwork yourself. Develop your skills, practice your craft, educate yourself, go out and get the training, that’s how you get ahead. Get out there and set the gears in motion and you will be surprised by just how many REAL opportunities begin to come your way.

The truth is that no matter how much help you think you need, you already have what it takes to make your dreams come true. For the longest time I struggled with what I thought was a lack of success. I wished that there was somebody out there who could give me a break. What actually happened was that when that helping hand came along if I hadn’t done the hard slug, if I hadn’t toiled away working for free and improving my work, then I wouldn’t have had the portfolio I needed to show at a chance meeting and I wouldn’t now be in London.

Take charge of your own destiny and be persistent. Your break is out there waiting for you to be ready.

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6 thoughts on “Ten things I wish I could tell my 16yo self about the real world. Don’t fall for the bullshitters.

  • September 26, 2014 at 9:39 pm
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    This is good advice Shannon, but I really can help you with taking you pants off. πŸ˜‰

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  • September 28, 2014 at 6:38 pm
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    Shannon dont worry yourself about things you cannot change. The time was not wasted, but necessary to grow, if you did not spend it then you would not have the experience to tell yourself. It was necessary for your personal development and you would not be who you are with out it, but it still offers you the opportunity to become who you may wish to be.

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  • October 2, 2014 at 12:06 pm
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    Hey. I am glad you posted this photo of you without the arse or the innuendo as it shows you are more than just meat πŸ™‚ And you still look cute!

    I think the problems came about for you because you were such a tease that older guys would have to promise you stuff to get your interest, and you fell for it as would anyone else. But where are those guys now? Well, they are looking for other 18-21 yo’s that are gullible…

    It’s sad but I also suffered for years from my Grindr obsession and promises made because I looked OK. I have a pretty good body so would always have torso shots but as soon as people saw my asian face you could see 99% of them would change their attitude to me. I embraced it and changed my profile name to ‘Aussie GAM’ and once I accepted myself then I took less offence to people calling me ‘shifty/slanty eyed’ or assuming I have unsafe sex (though sometimes I do, lol)…

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  • December 31, 2014 at 10:17 pm
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    I was lucky in that I met a bullshitter who strung me along about a dream job for months when I was 19.. Never materialized. Looking back, I was just naive. I suppose he thought it would entice me to sleep with him (but in my naivety and having low self esteem at the time that never even occurred to me).

    Anyways, that made me aware there are bullshitters in the world and I became much more aware that promises should be considered possibilities, not done deals.

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  • June 29, 2015 at 9:07 pm
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    Remember, if it seems too good to be true, it usually is !

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