The second hand challenge is almost over.

With all the focus on COVID and the lockdowns this year there has been little time to write about much else. Being stuck at home day in and day out doesn’t make for very exciting reading and there were only so many “stay busy at home” posts that I could bear, but my second hand challenge is definitely alive and well.

Towards the end of the second lockdown here in Melbourne my housemate moved out and took most of the furniture with him. I was left with a couch, coffee table, TV and just my bedroom furniture. The place was looking pretty sad and it felt like the horrible days back in London when living in some crap hole, but this time I was in my home town and luckily there are heaps of thrift shops around.

For those of you who don’t know the background to the challenge I’ll quickly get you up to speed. I believe that there is already more that enough stuff in the world that I don’t want to keep getting swept up in the consumer culture that is constantly pushing us to consume the world around us. So in an effort to reduce my impact of the environment and decrease my carbon footprint I decided that this year I wouldn’t buy any new clothing except for undies and socks. When my housemate moved out I decided to expand the challenge to include as much of the stuff that I needed for the apartment as I could.

The result is that I’ve managed to furnish the place with a mix of vintage and second hand items that I think are much better than the packed chipboard garbage that most cheap furniture is now made from. Including a fridge, TV and washing machine, I managed to furnish the whole place for under $1000. I’ve also collected some great fan art over the years that I am slowly getting framed. The result is that I finally have a place of my own that I feel reflects me. After live ing out of suitcase in other peoples houses for such a long time it’s a beautiful thing.

That doesn’t mean that I bought just any old junk. I still had a vision in mind for the kind of place that I want to live it. My home needs the feel alive and that means lots of plants, soft warm colours, wood, material and as little glass and chrome as possible.

The best thing about using second hand or vintage items is that the place doesn’t look like I just ordered a room full of Ikea furniture straight out of the catalogue. I know my style isn’t for everyone but I’m pretty proud that I was able to stick mostly to only second hand stuff. There were a couple of items I couldn’t find or which I needed urgently but otherwise I’m pretty happy with the way things turned out.

The best buy was a 350$ armchair that I got virtually brand new for $50 on facebook market place. It even came with the plastic still on.

There are somethings that I’m hanging out to the end of the challenge to buy. I really need some new gym gloves and a singlet, but this year has taught me that I just don’t need to keep buying new stuff all the time.

I love my chair.

LOCKED BOY DIARY – Balancing my hyper sexual kink lifestyle.

Since I started really exploring my sub headspace about a year ago I have learnt a lot about myself, my limits, and the difference between what is fantasy and reality. I have always wanted to be an owned boy but the reality of what that means is going to be challenging.

Maintaining a balance between my sub boy headspace and my regular everyday life has been becoming more and more challenging as my everyday life becomes hyper sexualised. I have thought about the sub lifestyle and being collared a lot for a very long time but this is the first time that I have experienced it and its pushing my limits at every level.

I have always been a very sexual person and sex has always been an extremely large part of my life. My sex life has also been very unhealthy and toxic at times and I have to be very careful when it starts to run away from me. Sexuality has been consuming a lot of my bandwidth over the past month and there are times when even I need a break.

Since lockdown and meeting Sir my everyday has become hyper sexual as my kinks move from a play space to a lifestyle. Being locked in chastity and collared means that sex is in the front of my mind all the time and that manifests itself in my social media and my daily routines. Mentally I have found that it takes a lot of discipline to keep everything together. Sir likes to keep me caged, collared and plugged most days which means constant vigilance and preparation. Those of you who bottom will know what it’s like to prepare for a dick appointment but when you have to be ready for almost anything at anytime, diet, hygiene and time management all become super important. The mental and physical discipline of maintaining this everyday can be exhausting. I need to be careful not to have blow outs where I gorge myself on sex and food and then end up feeling depressed, I will have to listen carefully to myself and let Sir know when I am starting to feel run down.

Right now I feel like sex has taken over my life and I need to restore some balance again. So as I move from a play space to lifestyle what are the things I am doing at the moment to return that balance?

Firstly I think that the current level of intensity its high but acceptable. Sir and I are interacting everyday although this is a kink partnership and not a romantic relationship. Maintaining open and honest communication with Sir will be the key to keeping a good Kink/life balance. Sir has made a real point of making sure I know that I can speak at anytime without judgement which is very important. Things have been intense because of lockdown and the excess of free time we have had, but that should settle down as work and my regular social life begins to normalise.

Secondly I hold my family, work and health above my kinks at all times. Sir understands this and it’s something that I made a point of discussing with him before signing Sirs contract.

Thirdly it’s important to maintain my independent social life and circle of friends as well as maintain my interests in other things. I can sometimes get too focussed on Sir and my duties as a boy, then my friendships and other aspects of my life suffer because I do not pay attention to them.

I love my role as an owned boy now I just need to strike the right balance with Sir.

Have you had a similar experience? Are you in a Kink partnership yourself? If you have any tips please share them and leave a comment below.