Apart from chastity the thing that I get asked about the most is Sirs collar. In the Kink community and personally my collar is not about playing dress up. In the wider Gay community harnesses, collars and other Kink accoutrements are often worn as costume and although I’m pleased to see that kink is becoming more mainstream each item I wear is important to me.
My collar was custom made for me by Sir. That in itself means a lot to me because it symbolises Sirs personal commitment to me as Sirs boy. Sirs collar with its padlock represents his ownership of this boy and my submission to his authority over my body and certain agreed aspects of my life. This ownership requires that I will serve him and be available for his pleasure when required. It means that this boys body now belongs to Sir and that this boys pleasure is Sirs to give and take away as he pleases. Violations of this will bring punishment.
Sirs collar does not only show this boys commitment but also shows Sirs commitment to take on the responsibility for my training and take me under his protection. This means that I am not available for use by other Doms without his permission.
A collar is not something that a Master gives lightly, it took three months of commitment and training before Sir decided I was worthy of wearing his collar. It is not something that should be accepted lightly either. It is a symbol of commitment, Sir and I have a contract which clearly outlines the terms of our partnership. Both of us have responsibilities to each other built on mutual enjoyment and respectful conduct.
There are a variety of collars which mean different things and now that wearing a collar has become more mainstream within the Kink and wider Gay communities it’s important to know that they are not always about “dressing up”. Everybody’s kink is personal and unique if you meet somebody wearing a collar and are not sure what it means then just ask and as always be respectful.
This weekend Sir collared me. For those of you not familiar with Dom/sub relationships when a Dom collars a boy it means that Sir is taking ownership of the boy. It is a significant sign of Sirs commitment and appreciation to make a collar for his boy. Ownership means that Sir is committed to training and using the boy for his pleasure and the boy submits to Sirs authority alone. Each Dom/sub relationship is unique and is not necessarily romantic and the boundaries and expectations require an open negotiation.
Sir now holds keys for my chastity cage and collar and I have submitted to him completely.
I have been searching for a Dom to commit to in this way for along time and earning my collar comes with some sense of pride. Sir has given me permission to share some of my experiences with you and I am looking forward to this next step in my training. It is a privilege to serve Sir.
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