More than partying and fucking.

Now that many of us are experiencing lockdowns, the closure of clubs and bars and the cancellation of parties and festivals its a good time to remind ourselves that there is more to life than partying and fucking.

I’m going to gripe a little bit because I was originally going to write this post about how difficult is was to find friends who didn’t bail on dinner plans or cancel at the last minute because they want to go clubbing or hook up. We all know them, gays who are non committal because they want to know what all the options are before they pick one. But in the current climate it’s taken on a wider context as I encounter more and more Gay guys who just can’t seem to keep it in their pants.

I had a conversation with a friend over the weekend who is in lockdown. He has a chronic condition and needs to be super careful about staying away from the virus and high risk situations. He is not the only person in his building with this condition.

Another resident in his building decided against lockdown laws to host a sex party. Even if my friend were not in a high risk group, is it really that hard for some Gay men to think of people other than themselves and put it away for a month or two? Is it worth risking a hospital visit and possibly ending up chronically ill on a ventilator for fuck? Is getting your dick wet really worth potentially making somebody else you know seriously ill?

About 3 weeks ago I was chatting to a guy on Grindr who messaged me for a hookup who told me he had just returned from Hong Kong the day before, but he had decided against medical advice that he didn’t need to self isolate because he had used hand sanitiser and a mask on the plane, he clearly didn’t care about the risk to me because he wanted a fuck.

Even now I still get messages from guys asking if I want to hook up? No I don’t think so thanks.

Could it be that gay guys have been living in a world of risk calculation when it comes to sex for so long that we are incapable of making good decisions when something like the Corona virus comes along? Has the sense of freedom and safety that PREP brings also numbed us to other risks?

There is more to life than partying and fucking. Protecting the people around you, being a good citizen, and taking notice of how your actions might effect others is doubly important right now, so please stay home, stay safe and flatten the curve. We will all get good dick and ass again, it’s not going to disappear.

 

One thought on “More than partying and fucking.

  • April 13, 2020 at 12:15 pm
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    Well said Shannon, It is as if gays in general cannot go with out dick or ass for more than 24hrs. Grindr is full of guys wanting to hook up without regards to the isolation requirements and are blatantly floating the law just for a bit of booty. No thanks I can wait until things settle down, there are plenty of things to do around your own home to satisfy your need to release guys. STAY HOME, help flatten the curve.

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