Doms and subs both message me from time to time asking how long-term chastity works for me and how I manage to stay locked for so long when many have trouble staying locked for more than twenty four hours due to discomfort or pain.
My head space is key and how I approach pain and discipline.
That headspace it created by my Dom as much as it is by me. If you are not committed to submitting willingly to the experience then you are going to struggle.
A lot of the subs I speak to about chastity think that putting the cage on will have them dripping pre-cum non stop while they walk around feeling good and horny everywhere, all the time. But before you reach this state you will need to get used to what it means to be caged. The fantasy and the reality are very different. After a month wearing the cage my first orgasm last two minutes non stop, after 100 days I experienced the most intense orgasm of my life, but to hit those heights of ecstasy takes a kind of submission and discipline that needs to be built up each time you put the cage on.
I went in to chastity intending to do it long term but before hitting the 120th day like I did today I had more than a few false starts. My last record was a month but before that I’d only managed a few days here or there. It’s been painful, scratchy, and pinchy at times and I’ve had occasional cuts and sensitivity but those are only physical things. The thing that got me through all of this was my head space. I am a sub, I was made to serve and being in chastity is an important part of my submission to Sir and my identity as a boy.
As well as the headspace your hygiene and care routine is super important. Keeping to a regular routine and using good quality products to take care of cleaning and your skin will make all the difference. Look for moisturisers that will help with the chaffing and keep warm to avoid clammy skin and cold sweats.
If you’re truly interested in chasity then understanding why and what you want to get out of it is the key. If you’re a Dom who wants to keep a boy in chastity it won’t work without your subs willing submission. Your sub needs to Want to be in chasity. It works differently for everyone, you need to really communicate what you both want to get out of it and then set achievable goals. Saying you’re going to go permanent without understanding what that really means is only going to lead to disappointment.
Lastly, everybody’s kink its different and what works for me may not work for you. Approach it with and open mind and as always listen to your body – safety first!