Is it Ass or arse?


Is it Ass or arse?

Something that has been on my mind lately is just how much arse is too much. When do you stop looking like a hot arse and just look like an Ass.

Now I’m no stranger to cheeky pictures and I have been quite happy to wear the tiniest Speedo to the beach, clubs, street parties, birthdays, dinner, and train stations but at what point are we just making an Ass of ourselves and when should we finally put it away.

There are plenty of bloggers out there myself included that are quickly reaching the point of no return, when you either have to accept that it’s time to put it away or become one of those mildly amusing jokes “like that old topless guy on the podium”. But who cares if you’re an old topless guy if you’re having the time of your life, why should it matter?

I’m well aware that my dancing down the street in a Speedo days are coming to an end, and I’m even a bit more conservative now on my social media, I think I can put it down to a change in my own attitudes. My fear of aging disgracefully and becoming a joke is strong. It is driving my desire to settle down and “put it away” or at least not whip it out quite so much.

10462783_10152589613159529_4668466046431957104_nThe feeling was triggered a few times over the past week when the subject of Pride came up and I was asked if I’d be getting out my Speedo again. I shrugged it off uncomfortably and replied, “I’m too old for that now”. It’s time to make way for the next generation of Speedo clad Gay boys. Still I wonder if it’s just me feeling this way because I’m not feeling very fit at the moment. During my time in the Lifesavers and marching with them at Mardi Gras there were lots of older fit men marching in their togz,

I also think the feeling stems from a strong desire not to be seen as just an arse. Am I really having a good time and being flirty or am I just making a dick of myself. We all hear it, people who moan softly under their breath “oh put it away honey”, the problem is that it’s in my nature to whip it out, and while you may think you have seen almost all there is to offer, if I could, I’d have shown you a lot more.

It’s a struggle to be sure and part of coming to terms with getting older. I’m sure your going to see and hear a lot more about this.




4 thoughts on “Is it Ass or arse?

  • July 2, 2014 at 12:21 pm

    Shannon, What do you mean “if you could”? I respect your limits, but I thought you had set them for yourself and not for the sake of someone else?

  • July 2, 2014 at 6:08 pm

    You still look hot to me. I’m always happy to see you “whip it out.”

  • July 3, 2014 at 6:51 am

    oh my sweety, what on earth are you dribbling about now.

    your not even 30 and you think it’s time to put away speedos and not to show of your butt.

    Listen up, you may think you don’t wont to be one of those old guys (and when I mean old I am talking about being closer to 40 than to 30 and above) that young people look at why is he doing that. Well guess what, as you get older you start to care less about what others think and you start to do what you enjoy. If you enjoy dancing in your speedos then do it! nothing or no one should tell you otherwise.

    Before you take a photo, do you worry about if someone else would like it? You take that photo because it’s what you see and what no else sees. it’s the same thing with life. Those young guys you worry about are nothing. they don’t know you, they don’t know what you have been thru in life and they don’t know what sets you free. Be yourself cause no one else can be.

    But if you’re not going to get your speedo out because of British weather then that’s different and I wouldn’t blame ya. 🙂

  • July 3, 2014 at 6:53 am

    Such awesome responses guys, thanks for making me think. Thanks for replying too. 🙂


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