Gay 101. To tattoo or not to tattoo?

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There have been a few times lately when I have considered getting a tattoo. Each time the decision has been ‘no’ but with many of the fashionable Gays sporting body art nowadays it’s hard not to feel like I am a step behind.

You only need to jump online or head to a club to see that expressing individuality by decorating our bodies is fashionable at the moment but tattoos are permanent and when the fashion pendulum swings back again as it inevitably does will they still be considered hot.

I’ll be honest, I really want a tattoo. Something hot that looks cool. I want it because a tattoo looks masculine and if I can’t have a five o’clock shadow then I can have a tattoo. I want a tattoo because all the cool kids I know have them and all my friends have them.

There’s just one really big problem…

I don’t like pain.

Actually there is more to it than that and I thought I might share my thoughts incase any of you out there are also thinking about getting a tattoo.

Why am I doing this?

Why am I really thinking about getting a tattoo? Sometimes I see another guy with one and I think damn he looks hot with that tat. But I don’t just want to get the same thing.

What happens when I change my mind? No matter how cool it looks when I’m in the mood, what happens when I’m not in the mood anymore and I look at my body and the marks on it, will I regret the decision?

It might look good now while things are still firm and bouncy but how will it look when I’m sixty and faded and saggy?

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Right now when I look at my body I see to marks, and no piercings. Even my hair is back to it’s natural color. I go to the gym but I have never touched a steroid. I am as I was made, undecorated and unadorned and I like it. I like that my body is natural and people often compliment me on my skin. I have fought my own issues about my appearance for a long time. I’ve have gone up and down the scale of self love to self hate all my life and I have arrived at this simple conclusion,

Just like I did away with coloring my hair as an exercise in accepting who I am, keeping my skin clear because my body is what it is and doesn’t need a tattoo is also important to me. My individuality is just as intact without a tattoo as it might be with.

If you want a tattoo and find something that is meaningful to you then there is no reason why you shouldn’t go for it. I’m not passing any judgments for or against but for me the decision is no… for the time being.

However you choose to express yourself remember to do it for yourself. You’re already a unique work of art.

 

8 thoughts on “Gay 101. To tattoo or not to tattoo?

  • August 21, 2014 at 2:35 pm
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    You are beautiful as you are.

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  • August 21, 2014 at 2:35 pm
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    I’ve been planning my first tattoo for quite a while and, to be honest, the permanence is a large part of the attraction. The one I have in mind is based on things I’ve accomplished and is obviously very personal. On the other hand, when I see people get one without much thought (“Let’s go get tattoos tonight!”) and end up with some generic or pop-cultural design, I hope they’re going to be okay with it in the years to come but I don’t always have a lot of confidence. If you really want one I would encourage you to think of as something you’re doing for yourself instead of as a fashion item. Make your decisions consciously.

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  • August 21, 2014 at 3:54 pm
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    I think it makes sense not to try to improve on the natural reality of your body. Certainly the “everybody’s doing it” type of reason is not valid, and, once again I’m impressed with the level-headed way you’re dealing with the impulse.

    One other thing to have in mind is that it seems for many people, one isn’t enough. They may get the first one thinking it will be the only one, but once the precedent has been set they think it would be nice to get another one, and another, and another. And in short order they’re grotesque. Don’t put yourself on the slippery slope.

    But to me even one tattoo is annoying and distracting. It draws attention to itself and away from the rest of the person.

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  • August 21, 2014 at 8:30 pm
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    Tatoos are already seen as passé.

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  • August 21, 2014 at 9:54 pm
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    My tattoos are all about me. No fancy designs or passing fads – just my significant “milestones”. Because I can’t regret being me regardless of how old I am.

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  • August 22, 2014 at 6:09 am
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    I think tattoos if give much thought and placement can be a unique body art. But for most they are done out of ignorance and thoughtlessness. (some people seem to get addicted to getting tattoos and it becomes disgusting looking. No difference than those who over do body piercing and look like human pin cushions.)

    Mainly you have to realize the permanence of them for laser removal can be very costly. Both tattooing and body piercing should be give much consideration before taking the leap.

    Back in the day I thought it would be neat to get a small tattoo of either the Cobra Command symbol. Autobot or Decepticon symbol. That’s how big of 80’s cartoon geek I was back then. Just lucky I did not like pain and terrified of needles.

    So no tats or piercings for me. But then again each to his/her own.

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  • August 22, 2014 at 6:42 am
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    Shannon babe, once again you have considered all the pros and cons re the tattoo. Personally (& i’m bias cos I love your body) keeping your body as natural as you can is important, you have no piercings, no other form of body art and you look amazing. Yes tats can look sexy but as you say they are permanent. Don’t fall into the “but everyone’s doing it” trap. Be yourself and do what you want to do not what everyone else is doing which I know you do anyway, you have always followed your heart.

    If and its a very big if, i was your age again i would not get a tat for the same reasons that i don’t have one now, the pain, what do I get that will mean something to me in the years to come, what if the trend changes. so I opted for the “No” That’s just me. Tomorrow you may have a brilliant idea for a tat and go get it either way i am sure you will think long and hard (no pun intended there) before you do. Be safe babe. XXX

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  • August 22, 2014 at 8:54 am
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    You don’t need a tattoo, you only want one because it looks cool on others … and like you said it won’t look cool at all anymore when you are older and have a flappy skin, even if you can make them remove in some cases there will Always be a trace.

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