Gay 101. Rediscovering your motivation.


The great Ann Landers’ once responded to a middle aged reader who wanted to train to become a medical doctor who said “This will take me ten years to complete and I’ll be so old!”. She said “How old will you be in ten years if you DON’T train to become a medical doctor?”.

Motivation is something that can only come from within. People can inspire you but only you can make the decision to act, only you can motivate yourself.

Sometimes it’s hard to find motivation especially when we are on the verge of something new and unfamiliar. Fear of leaving our comfort zone stops us. Despite all of the things that I have done over the past few years, travel, sailing, work etc. I have always struggled with my depression suppressing my motivation. I have worked very hard at pushing myself out of my comfort zone.

When I am starting to lose my motivation there are three questions I try to ask myself to shake off the feeling that I can’t do or a achieve something.

images1- What is really holding me back? I often ask myself whether the roadblocks I place in front of myself are real or just imagined. Really being honest with myself about why I am reluctant to start something usually results in me always coming back to one thing… FEAR. Fear of failure and fear of the unknown.

2- What do I really have to lose? In ten years time what difference will it make to my life if I try and fail, don’t try at all, or try and succeed?

3- How will it feel if I succeed? I try to sit for a moment and imagine what it will feel like when I have completed the task. I remember how good success has felt in the past and try to hold to that feeling.

These three simple questions have helped me time and time again to break out out of my fear and find the motivation I need to get things moving forward again. I hope they help you too.


One thought on “Gay 101. Rediscovering your motivation.

  • June 19, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    I had a dream about you. I hope you’re in good spirits.


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